Safety, safety, safety, safety.  It is super important for our nervous system/emotional system/relational system.

Resourcing can help our sense of safety to grow.

A Resource is anything that helps you feel

• safer
• settled
• relaxed
• open
• spacious
• etc.

If the words safe, settled, or relaxed seem out of reach for you, than what about …?

• Neutral
• Somewhat pleasant
• Stable

If this seems like too much for you, than how about…?

• Kind of neutral
• Sort of ok
• Just a tiny bit better

• A warm cup of tea in your favorite mug
• Wrapping yourself up in your favorite blanket
• Talking with a friend
• Enjoying a walk in nature
• Sitting in the sunshine
• A somatic practice like TRE, breathing, movement
• Listening to your favorite song
• A warm shower or bath

When our body is holding onto stress or trauma and sometimes illness or pain, it is because we were under-resourced in the past and/or are currently under-resourced in the present in ways such as

• Not enough love
• Not enough safety
• Not enough presence
• Not enough attunement
• Not enough time to integrate
• Not enough time to process
• Not enough nervous system capacity 
• Not enough support
• Do not feel heard, seen, listened to
• Not enough rest
• Not enough silence
• Not enough space-boundaries being violated

Therefore, we can move toward greater balance when we make it a regular practice, daily if possible, to provide ourself with positive resources. Give yourself the things you feel are lacking. Or start to create a space where this could start happening. You can start in even small ways to show your body what it feels like to settle, to feel a sense of comfort, to connect.

• Making a small request for what you want or need
• Setting a small boundary and sticking to it
• Giving yourself a little time for yourself
• Taking 5 minutes to notice the sights and sounds around you
• Share something a bit vulnerable with a friend with the intention to create a deeper connection
• Enjoy any resource that works well for you